Once upon a time, I was a single mother. I worked in human services (not the biggest ticket salary out there) and received almost none of the child support that had been ordered by the court. (Yes, I could have taken all sort of steps to collect but, at the time, he wasn’t around and that made life much safer and more peaceful for all concerned.)
Maybe Someone Will Need This
Unfortunately, I got really good at worrying about money. I developed a highly trained scarcity mentality. PhD-level. Despite changed circumstances, sometimes it’s still hard to get rid of “stuff” without thinking “maybe someone will need this someday.” (Not even “maybe I will need it” but “someone.”) Those thoughts were particularly loud and obnoxious when I got married and merged two complete households. They cropped up again when we sold our home and prepared to move to the other end of the country.
At the risk of sounding like a hoarder, I’ve learned to turn down the volume of those thoughts. The simplest, least stressful strategy I’ve found is a multi-step process. First, I put “stuff” into a big storage box. Then I close it up and notice whether or not I go looking for any of its contents. Most of the time the answer is “no” and I am grateful to drop it off at the thrift store that supports our local domestic violence shelter.
Not long ago, I was on the phone with a friend, talking a little about this process. He’s much better at it than I am and had an observation about why it can be so difficult for people to start the process of off-loading excess.
“Your lizard brain hates loss. It loves stuff. Lots and lots of stuff.”
Your Lizard Hates Loss
Duh. I know this. Hanging on to excess stuff is about survival… about having “enough” to live. And it doesn’t matter that the “need” doesn’t exist. It’s only a perception. An important part of clearing clutter is to make sure we’re not seeing it as a loss.
Living better with less is a mindset… and sometimes we need to remind that little lizard between our ears that our survival is not at stake. Take small steps. There is no end. Gratitude for the abundance in our lives. There’s no hurry… it’s a way of life.
This post originally appeared here.
As we soft launch the Amelia Indie Authors site, the team needs to communicate about a variety of things. For example, Nancy and Andrea used this post to make adjustments to our desired site colors. (Some of the selections in the original palette did not translate well to fonts.)
Next, our wonderful virtual assistant will be making a few font changes for easier reading. Since we (currently) use a WordPress template, there are *two* places to make such adjustments. And, one of the honchos did not keep detailed notes when first drafting the site. We hope this post may help our intrepid VA track down the correct menu to use to make the adjustment.
heading 1=The more you explain it, the more I don’t understand it.
heading 2=The more you explain it, the more I don’t understand it.
heading 3=The more you explain it, the more I don’t understand it.
Heading 4= The more you explain it, the more I don’t understand it.
Heading 5=The more you explain it, the more I don’t understand it.
Heading 6 = The more you explain it, the more I don’t understand it.
What are the rules of the road for being social? There are plenty. Authors online can be your greatest allies. After all, unless your ideal customer will only read one book, other authors are not competition.
There’s a lot more to say about this… but not right now while I’m repairing the site. Stay tuned!
Once upon a time, I got frustrated with waiting too long and paying too much…
so I figured out how to build my own website. And, while I can’t always make it do exactly what I want it to? Most days I come pretty close.Once upon a time, I got frustrated with waiting too long and paying too much... Click To Tweet
The other day I got to help a fellow author launch his blog and, through more trial and error than I had hoped for, we got it up and running. Apparently, if I’m going to remember how to do these things, I’m going to have to use some of the skills more often.
The other thing that complicates this particular learning curve? App developers keep making things better and, generally speaking, this is a good thing… except when I only know one way to do something and the ability to update it has expired. Pfft.
This point was driven home earlier this week when I realized that only my old parenting posts were working their way over to my Facebook page. I guess that’s OK… but I’ve been writing about other topics and wanted to share those posts, too.
Long story short? Evidently, it worked. So, instead of the usual “test post” I decided to celebrate with a picture taken at our former home in New Hampshire. I’m not sure my friend Nancy believed me when I told her we used to live “smack in the middle of nowhere.”I decided to celebrate with a photo taken from our former home... smack in the middle of nowhere! Click To Tweet
Please enjoy a post celebrating the serenity I feel every time something technical goes well. And providing photographic evidence for my friend the meticulous researcher and award-winning author? That’s just a bonus.